Losing Mom - The Wake-Up Call Every Ambitious Woman Needs About Self-Care

There is ZERO doubt in my mind that a huge part of what took mom from us was the chronic stress of a high-achieving, caring-for-everyone-but-yourself-WITHOUT-END life.⁣⁣

I watched my driven, passionate, IMPACT MAKING mom go HARD. I watched her SHOW UP to take such amazing care of everyone and everything. But herself. She could do ANYTHING…unless it was for herself. ⁣

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⁣I learned to WORK HARD. I come from two of the hardest working people I’ve ever met. ⁣And, I learned to PLAY HARD. I come from some of the hardest playing people I’ve ever met, too. ⁣⁣

But... 

...how in the actual hell am I supposed to REST HARD? How do I actually take care of my body, mind and soul? How do I SLOW DOWN like that?

⁣I didn’t learn that. I learned about no excuses, and showing up scared, and selfless contribution. I learned how to give everything of myself. ⁣I saw that, day in and day out. What I didn’t see and learn is how to give anything TO myself. ⁣⁣

And that is a problem. Maybe the same problem you have, my selfless friend? ⁣⁣

Our bodies, minds & souls need REST and RECHARGING! If you’re going to do this life at a high level for the long term, you’ve GOT to make a MAJOR mindset shift:⁣

YOU’VE 𝘎𝘖𝘛 TO ADD 𝘠𝘖𝘜 TO THE LIST OF THINGS YOU TAKE AMAZING CARE OF. ⁣⁣

For me, that felt entirely unnatural. I had to start thinking of ”selfcare” like vehicle maintenance; the necessary steps that MUST be taken to keep the “vehicle” running in top condition. ⁣⁣

I started scheduling the routine maintenance (selfcare), and showing up for it like any other necessary appointment.

 It didn't feel great, at first. Actually, I didn't want to do ANY of it! I didn't want to spend the time, and I didn't want to spend the money, because I felt like both should go to a more necessary and worthy cause. 

Both the time and the money investments felt like a "waste," because I didn't feel like I "needed" the break / rest / recharge / luxury. That's just it - instead of feeling like maintenance, it felt like an unnecessary luxury. 

So to be crystal clear: when I first started routinely scheduling selfcare appointments, I almost never wanted to show up for my maintenance AKA selfcare. And despite feeling like that, I showed up for the appointments anyway. And you know what happened? ⁣⁣

Solid health. Less stress. Deeper rest. More fun. More joy. And – YES – more achievement, too. ⁣ 

HERE ARE SOME IDEAS TO GET YOU STARTED: ⁣⁣

-Yearly: schedule Mom’s weekend away – book a hotel for a night (or more) for just YOU⁣⁣

-Monthly: schedule a lady’s night, or friends outing, with the soul purpose (pun intended) of having FUN⁣⁣

-Weekly: schedule a FULL day off. Sleep in that morning. ⁣⁣

-Daily: schedule at LEAST one hour of time to do something purely because you WANT to do it. Reading, TV, social media, bath, scrapbooking, whatever. Every. Damn. Day. ⁣⁣

Pssssssssst! Did you notice the key word? SCHEDULE 

Shoot me a DM and tell me about your selfcare journey! Is it a challenge for you? Easy peasy? What would you like to see more discussion or tips on?