The Secret and the Opportunity: Why Worth Must Come from Within

Remember Cool Runnings, the 90s movie about the Jamaican Olympic bobsled team? The coach tells one of the team members, about their pursuit of a gold medal, “If you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it.”

What is It, for you?

The invitation.

The new job.

The promotion and title.

The bigger business. 

The clients. 

The bigger social media following.

The work-life balance.

The grace-under-fire demeanor.

The money.

The house, cars, and clothes.

The fancy vacation.

The marriage or relationship.

The children.

The fit body.

If you don’t feel like you’re enough WITHOUT it, you won’t feel like you’re enough WITH it. If you're believing that once you get the thing you're pursuing, that it will fill the hole inside you, you're feeding a hungry ghost. 

I know you've already heard this. I know you already know this. But can we run a quick experiment? Are you willing to be really honest (with yourself) for a moment? Ask yourself: Am I desperately pursing the thing because I'm hoping it will make me feel differently about myself?  

“Knowing” things in your head doesn’t do a damn thing if you don't fully believe it, don't fully know it, in your body. When you know it in your head, but you don’t know it in your body, and in your heart, you don’t genuinely feel it. A part of you thinks that the goals and stuff and accomplishments will make you better, happier, complete, fulfilled, more worthy, and more valuable. Finally, you'll be enough.  

And let's just say you do finally reach your goal. You cross the finish line. Congrats to you! Do you feel proud, accomplished, all of the enoughness you were craving before you got there?

Before you can even answer the question, your eyes drift from where you're standing now to your next big goal. The next target, the next finish line you must cross. "Surely this emptiness will go away when I hit that next target. Surely I'll feel satisfied, proud, and accomplished then." 

If you don’t feel like you’re enough WITHOUT it, you won’t feel like you’re enough WITH it. Once you truly know it and feel it, head, heart, and body, who you BE changes. How you show up changes. Ironically, you’re able to go all in on creating your goals, and truly play full out, because you know on every level that you’re just playing a game, and the truth of YOU doesn’t change with the wins and losses.

The worthiness and enoughness you’re seeking in the world can only come from within. You can’t get it from the world, from out there, from other things and people. It can only come from YOU. 

And then watch what happens when you go for your goals from that place. 

If you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it. The secret is, you are enough without it. You’re already worthy, and enough. You always were worthy and enough. And the opportunity is for you to connect to that, know that, feel that. And then freakin rock your goals from that place of POWER!

It’s worth the work. Don't believe me, try it and see.